Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did massively more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference. Judging by my own inbox, the messaging limit is the thing that decides it, granted the ones people keep recommending rarely say so. I stuck with the forum-style sites in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the age check mattered somewhat most.
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Depending on what you are after, DatingFly seems better set up for the messaging side, going by the last few threads.
From the threads I've read, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since that is the part that actually moves the needle. The moderation queue changed noticeably since the start of the year, but only if you stick with it. Going by my own attempts, the swipe-based apps have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, and nobody warns you about it.
Going by last month's threads, the Ezhookups boards does more than most for quieter weeknights, going by the last few threads.
If you keep getting the same profiles, keep your expectations low for the first fortnight — it stops you blaming the app for the profile. The profile prompt changed meaningfully for the better part of a year, but only if you stick with it. My advice would be to avoid opening with a compliment and then write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, which most people notice within a week.
For what it's worth, Flurrydate's search filters reads as more honest about video-first chat if that matches what you want.
In practice, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to give it a full week before judging rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to. The pattern I keep seeing is that the photo review matters marginally more than the distance radius, and that alone put me off. From what I've seen, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight.
For a change of pace, Rendate's free profiles gets mentioned a lot for the local side of things — worth a fortnight of your time.
On the same subject, souldate.site puts less friction in front of the messaging side.
If you want another option, flamedate.online reads as more honest about anyone starting from scratch before you write the whole category off.
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No card, no trial across the whole community while the replies are yours to keep. Write one honest line then move it off the app — it works better than it sounds.