Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live.
- What actually mattered was that the search filter setup matters a great deal more than the messaging limit, which changes the whole experience
- After giving it a proper go I noticed the read receipt setting behaving differently on the ones with a paywall, which changes the whole experience
- Though the newer sites look similar, the discovery feed differs somewhat, which most people notice within a week
- Though the swipe-based apps look similar, the reporting system differs hardly at all, which explains a lot of the complaints here
To be fair, the bigger platforms have dropped the feature everyone used, and nobody warns you about it. The thing that finally clicked was that the reporting system matters a little more than the search filter setup, and it makes a real difference.
The messaging limit changed a fair bit over the last month, though it settles down after a while.
For a change of pace, Datedesire gets mentioned a lot for anyone dating after a break, so it is worth a look.