Going by my own attempts, if you are new to this the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than say what you actually want up front. My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then say what you actually want up front, but only if you stick with it.
While people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: most complaints trace back to that one thing.
- I stuck with the ones with a paywall after a fortnight of testing, and the honest result was that the distance radius mattered a fair bit most
- To be fair, the matching algorithm is the thing that decides it, though apps with a video option rarely say so
- To be fair, I'd report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since the difference in reply rate is obvious
- To be fair, the newer sites have quietly changed how that works, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- a few niche sites — keeps showing up in forums as a newer option
Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did marginally more for me than switching platform, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
When you keep getting the same profiles, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel hardly at all worse than they are, which is worth knowing before you sign up.