Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because most complaints trace back to that one thing, and it makes a real difference. My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, though it settles down after a while.
When your inbox is dead, the ones with a paywall tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it.
- After a slow start I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on the ones people keep recommending, though it settles down after a while
- Broadly speaking, I'd use a recent photo with your face clear rather than say what you actually want up front, since the first week is never representative
- The distance radius and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, and that alone put me off
- The reporting system and the read receipt setting pull in opposite directions, and that alone put me off
- The read receipt setting and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, which changes the whole experience
The thing that finally clicked was that apps with a video option have made the free version harder to use in the last stretch of trying.
Throughout most of last year I noticed the age check behaving differently on the ones people keep recommending, but only if you stick with it.