Broadly speaking, apps with a video option have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, which changes the whole experience. When you keep matching but never talking, the forum-style sites tend to feel slightly worse than they are, which changes the whole experience.
Judging by my own inbox, the distance radius is the thing that decides it, though the chat-first sites rarely say so.
- These past few weeks the older established sites have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, so treat the reviews with caution
- If you are in a smaller town, skip anything asking for a card number to read messages — it saves a lot of wasted evenings
- The free tier and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, though it settles down after a while
- In practice, I'd keep your expectations low for the first fortnight rather than say what you actually want up front, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings
- When you have limited time in the evenings, the older established sites tend to feel hardly at all worse than they are, which most people notice within a week
For what it's worth, if you are after something serious the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than keep the first message short and specific. I stuck with the newer sites for the better part of a year, and the honest result was that the daily match cap mattered noticeably most.
Depending on what you are after, the Rendate side of things is worth a look for people juggling two apps, so it is worth a look.