When you live somewhere dense, sites that skip verification tend to feel a little worse than they are, which changes the whole experience. Over the last month I noticed the reporting system behaving differently on the regional platforms, though it settles down after a while.
I stuck with the forum-style sites in the past six months, and the honest result was that the discovery feed mattered somewhat most.
- Across a couple of different accounts apps with a strict photo policy have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- What changed my mind was that the distance radius matters considerably more than the block list, and that alone put me off
- The awkward truth is that the newer sites have dropped the feature everyone used over two or three attempts
- Judging by my own inbox, the regional platforms have started throttling messages, which changes the whole experience
Keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, because it saves a lot of wasted evenings, and nobody warns you about it. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to avoid opening with a compliment: most complaints trace back to that one thing.
To be fair, the ones with a paywall have made the first message cost something, and nobody warns you about it.
Coming at it from another angle, the Flamedate community has fewer complaints about the first-message problem, which is not nothing.