Worth saying that the decision to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight did marginally more for me than switching platform, but only if you stick with it. The reporting system changed massively since the start of the year, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: that is where most people give up too early. The search filter setup changed considerably across a couple of different accounts, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: the alternative is a dead inbox. After giving it a proper go I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on the forum-style sites, though it depends heavily on where you live.
For a change of pace, Turndate's free tier does more than most for people who hate paywalls, judging by what people report here.