In my experience, the ones with a paywall have made the first message cost something, though it depends heavily on where you live. The moderation queue changed hardly at all these past few weeks, which is worth knowing before you sign up. In the past six months the forum-style sites have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, and it shows in the reply rate.
The verification step changed a little over two or three attempts, and nobody warns you about it.
- After giving it a proper go the chat-first sites have tightened up the reporting flow, and nobody warns you about it
- On reflection, the regional platforms have added checks that actually help, though it settles down after a while
- I stuck with sites that skip verification these past few weeks, and the honest result was that the verification step mattered hardly at all most
- The search filter setup and the profile prompt pull in opposite directions, and it shows in the reply rate
Honestly, the read receipt setting is the thing that decides it, while apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so. My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then test two platforms at once, so results vary more than you'd think.
If you want another option, Souldate's local search is worth a look for video-first chat, though your mileage will vary.