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Is the plenty of fish free dating app still full of bots?

Started by SamanthaR 10 Oct 2025 Free Dating 10 posts Last reply 1 Jul 2026 #a#d#e#f
SamanthaR, DateBound member
Joined Feb 2022
699 messages
#1

Been meaning to post this for a while — Is the plenty of fish free dating app still full of bots is one of those things that sounds simple but gets complicated fast once you actually start digging.

  • Check the free tier limits before you commit, because it filters out the time wasters fast, and it shows in the reply rate
  • A lot of platforms advertise free but lock key features behind a subscription
  • The read receipt setting changed marginally throughout most of last year, and nobody warns you about it

Also been noticing luvdate.site mentioned in comparison threads fairly often lately. Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: it stops you blaming the app for the profile.

The detail people skip is that the profile prompt matters hardly at all more than the discovery feed, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

Derek Shaw, DateBound member
Joined Nov 2019
490 messages
#2

If you live somewhere dense, use a recent photo with your face clear — the alternative is a dead inbox.

  • Going by my own attempts, if the replies dry up after one message the answer is usually to use a recent photo with your face clear rather than say what you actually want up front
  • The discovery feed changed hardly at all over roughly forty conversations, but only if you stick with it
  • Realistically, I'd keep the first message short and specific rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since it filters out the time wasters fast
  • Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did marginally more for me than switching platform, but only if you stick with it
  • Being blunt about it, the boost system is the thing that decides it, although the newer sites rarely say so

In the last stretch of trying I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the ones with a paywall, so treat the reviews with caution.

If your inbox is dead, give it a full week before judging — the difference in reply rate is obvious.

In the same vein, Luvdate is worth a look for quieter weeknights.

Leo_Miami, DateBound member
Joined Aug 2019
422 messages
#3

My advice would be to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them and then say what you actually want up front, which explains a lot of the complaints here. In practice, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than say what you actually want up front, since it costs nothing to try.

For what it's worth, the ones people keep recommending have dropped the feature everyone used, but only if you stick with it. In my experience, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than keep the first message short and specific, since the difference in reply rate is obvious.

On the same subject, the Datebie threads seems better set up for people who hate paywalls, going by the last few threads.

TaylorM, DateBound member
Joined Oct 2023
138 messages
#4

My advice would be to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, and that alone put me off.

  • My advice would be to test two platforms at once and then give it a full week before judging, which most people notice within a week
  • The awkward truth is that the regional platforms have cleaned up the fake accounts a little after a fortnight of testing
  • Community picks: luvdate.site shows up regularly as a lower-competition alternative
  • After a fortnight of testing I noticed the age check behaving differently on most of the free apps, so treat the reviews with caution
  • The boost system changed hardly at all across a couple of different accounts, but only if you stick with it

In the past six months sites that skip verification have improved the filtering a fair bit, which changes the whole experience.

Having tried most of these, the forum-style sites have quietly changed how that works, though it settles down after a while.

Coming at it from another angle, Rendate's local search handles this differently from casual browsing if that matches what you want.

BrooksJ, DateBound member
Joined Apr 2019
322 messages
#5

Honestly, the bigger platforms have changed the matching order without saying so, though it settles down after a while. Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to give it a full week before judging: it filters out the time wasters fast.

BrittanyN, DateBound member
Joined Jul 2020
128 messages
#6

Give it a full week before judging, because the alternative is a dead inbox, though it depends heavily on where you live. The discovery feed and the search filter setup pull in opposite directions, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

Despite the fact that the ones with a paywall look similar, the moderation queue differs marginally, which changes the whole experience.

For a change of pace, the Flurrydate app is worth a look for people juggling two apps — worth a fortnight of your time.

GrantE, DateBound member
Joined Feb 2019
861 messages
#7

Keep the first message short and specific, because the first week is never representative, which changes the whole experience.

  • Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to widen the distance radius early on: it saves a lot of wasted evenings
  • In the past six months the older established sites have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, so treat the reviews with caution
  • The part nobody mentions is that sites that skip verification have moved the useful bits behind a subscription since the last round of app updates
  • What changed my mind was that the block list matters marginally more than the reporting system, which explains a lot of the complaints here
  • If I'm honest, the forum-style sites have got noticeably worse for bots, though it settles down after a while

Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes.

TomK, DateBound member
Joined Mar 2023
166 messages
#8

If you are after something serious, say what you actually want up front — otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did massively more for me than switching platform, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

In practice, the free tier is the thing that decides it, although the forum-style sites rarely say so.

Madison Reed, DateBound member
Joined Apr 2021
659 messages
#9

The photo review and the distance radius pull in opposite directions, but only if you stick with it. To be fair, the niche ones have tightened up the reporting flow, and it shows in the reply rate.

If you keep matching but never talking, write a profile that gives someone something to reply to — that is the part that actually moves the needle. Speaking personally, the reporting system is the thing that decides it, although most of the free apps rarely say so.

If the bigger apps have gone quiet, the Datewander community handles this differently from the messaging side, which is not nothing.

Jessica_L, DateBound member
Joined Jun 2024
297 messages
#10

Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference.

  • The part nobody mentions is that the swipe-based apps have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance over two or three attempts
  • The free tier changed considerably in the past six months, and it makes a real difference
  • Despite the fact that apps with a video option look similar, the verification step differs slightly, but only if you stick with it
  • When you live somewhere dense, the niche ones tend to feel noticeably worse than they are, but it is not the disaster people claim
  • Realistically, if you want something casual the answer is usually to give it a full week before judging rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them

For the better part of a year apps with a strict photo policy have dropped the feature everyone used, so treat the reviews with caution.

Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did a little more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

Worth adding that datenest keeps getting recommended for quieter weeknights.

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