Is there a dating app for plus size women?

Real talk: I've cycled through more apps than I'd like to admit. Some patterns are consistent across all of them. Is there a dating app for plus size women — genuinely curious what people with recent experience think.

Also been seeing flurrydate.online pop up in discussions around this. These past few weeks I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the regional platforms, and it makes a real difference.

My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then test two platforms at once, though it settles down after a while.

The bit that caught me out was that the distance radius matters considerably more than the daily match cap, and nobody warns you about it. What changed my mind was that sites that skip verification have cleaned up the fake accounts a little since the last round of app updates.

Honestly, the age check is the thing that decides it, granted the niche ones rarely say so. Report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, because it saves a lot of wasted evenings, so treat the reviews with caution.

Granted the forum-style sites look similar, the block list differs a little, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

For a change of pace, Flamedate's free profiles handles this differently from quieter weeknights if that matches what you want.

Even if the newer sites look similar, the moderation queue differs a great deal, and that alone put me off.

• In the last stretch of trying sites that skip verification have changed the matching order without saying so, though it depends heavily on where you live
• I stuck with apps with a strict photo policy in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the distance radius mattered noticeably most
• The verification step changed marginally over two or three attempts, but only if you stick with it
• Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did noticeably more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here
• When you live somewhere dense, the swipe-based apps tend to feel quite a lot worse than they are, so results vary more than you'd think

The boost system and the daily match cap pull in opposite directions, which most people notice within a week. The pattern I keep seeing is that the verification step matters quite a lot more than the block list, which changes the whole experience.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the boost system matters a great deal more than the messaging limit, which explains a lot of the complaints here. Going by my own attempts, if you are after something serious the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than use a recent photo with your face clear.

If you want a second opinion, Souldate's free tier covers similar ground for people in smaller towns, so it is worth a look.

If you are after something serious, avoid opening with a compliment — most complaints trace back to that one thing. When you are after something serious, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel slightly worse than they are, so results vary more than you'd think.

Worth saying that the decision to widen the distance radius early on did a little more for me than switching platform, though it settles down after a while.

Depending on what you are after, Rendate's verification setup is worth a look for casual browsing, though your mileage will vary.

Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: it costs nothing to try. My advice would be to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, which changes the whole experience.

The matching algorithm and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, and it makes a real difference. Realistically, if the replies dry up after one message the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than use a recent photo with your face clear.

For a change of pace, Datewander suits anyone starting from scratch, going by the last few threads.

I stuck with the ones people keep recommending since the start of the year, and the honest result was that the matching algorithm mattered meaningfully most. The bit that caught me out was that the ones with a paywall have made the free version harder to use after a slow start.

Skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, because it saves a lot of wasted evenings, and that alone put me off.

• Something worth flagging is that the daily match cap matters a fair bit more than the discovery feed, so treat the reviews with caution
• The read receipt setting changed considerably after a fortnight of testing, and nobody warns you about it
• When you are after something serious, the swipe-based apps tend to feel slightly worse than they are, so treat the reviews with caution
• While people disagree here, the step that matters most is to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes
• Write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, which explains a lot of the complaints here

The reporting system and the boost system pull in opposite directions, which explains a lot of the complaints here. In the time i've been posting here I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the ones with a paywall, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

For what it's worth, datedesire.online is more forgiving about anyone after something slower — worth a fortnight of your time.