The moderation queue changed considerably having stuck with it a while, though it depends heavily on where you live. I stuck with most of the free apps after giving it a proper go, and the honest result was that the search filter setup mattered a little most.
- Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to read the last few pages of a thread before asking: the alternative is a dead inbox
- The awkward truth is that most of the free apps have improved the filtering a fair bit after a slow start
- Having stuck with it a while I noticed the photo review behaving differently on the ones people keep recommending, so treat the reviews with caution
While people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep the first message short and specific: that is the part that actually moves the needle. Realistically, the discovery feed is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that the niche ones rarely say so.
If you want something casual, report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them — it stops you blaming the app for the profile.
Depending on what you are after, Turndate's search filters is worth a look for anyone starting from scratch, at least in my case.