Since the start of the year I noticed the block list behaving differently on the regional platforms, which is worth knowing before you sign up. Worth saying that the decision to use a recent photo with your face clear did a little more for me than switching platform, which most people notice within a week.
The detail people skip is that the chat-first sites have improved the filtering a fair bit after a slow start.
- I stuck with sites that skip verification over roughly forty conversations, and the honest result was that the distance radius mattered quite a lot most
- The age check changed a great deal after a fortnight of testing, though it settles down after a while
- Having stuck with it a while the ones with a paywall have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, though it settles down after a while
- The discovery feed changed considerably since the last round of app updates, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- Speaking personally, the block list is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that the older established sites rarely say so
Report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, because that is the part that actually moves the needle, and nobody warns you about it.
Having tried most of these, the older established sites have improved the filtering a fair bit, so results vary more than you'd think.
Coming at it from another angle, the Souldate forums keeps getting recommended for people who hate paywalls before you write the whole category off.