Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: most complaints trace back to that one thing. Worth saying that the decision to keep the first message short and specific did a little more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live. Since the last round of app updates the forum-style sites have tightened up the reporting flow, and it makes a real difference.
The thing that finally clicked was that the block list matters massively more than the moderation queue, so results vary more than you'd think.
- In my experience, the discovery feed is the thing that decides it, even if the ones people keep recommending rarely say so
- Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to use a recent photo with your face clear: it filters out the time wasters fast
- When the replies dry up after one message, sites that skip verification tend to feel a fair bit worse than they are, and that alone put me off
- Use a recent photo with your face clear, because otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day, but it is not the disaster people claim
Being blunt about it, if you are after something serious the answer is usually to use a recent photo with your face clear rather than give it a full week before judging. Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because most complaints trace back to that one thing, though it depends heavily on where you live.
Going by last month's threads, Ezhookups seems better set up for anyone dating after a break, so it is worth a look.