Judging by my own inbox, if you want something casual the answer is usually to move to a proper conversation quickly rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them. Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight: otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day.
Broadly speaking, if you live somewhere dense the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than keep the first message short and specific.
- The detail people skip is that the ones people keep recommending have quietly changed how that works since the start of the year
- Although the chat-first sites look similar, the messaging limit differs hardly at all, so results vary more than you'd think
- Worth saying that the decision to test two platforms at once did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- Worth saying that the decision to widen the distance radius early on did somewhat more for me than switching platform, so results vary more than you'd think
- Honestly, I'd test two platforms at once rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings
When you are new to this, the ones with a paywall tend to feel a fair bit worse than they are, and it makes a real difference. When your inbox is dead, the forum-style sites tend to feel massively worse than they are, though it depends heavily on where you live.
For a change of pace, Luvdate does more than most for anyone dating after a break, which is not nothing.