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Although the newer sites look similar, the distance radius differs considerably, though it depends heavily on where you live. When you are only browsing free options, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel a little worse than they are, and it makes a real difference. My advice would be to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, though it depends heavily on where you live. In the past six months I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on the newer sites, and nobody warns you about it. Over roughly forty conversations I noticed the free tier behaving differently on the swipe-based apps, and nobody warns you about it.

Being blunt about it, the niche ones have quietly changed how that works, but only if you stick with it. Honestly, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than test two platforms at once, since the alternative is a dead inbox. Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: that is the part that actually moves the needle. Worth saying that the decision to keep the first message short and specific did noticeably more for me than switching platform, which most people notice within a week. Speaking personally, the search filter setup is the thing that decides it, even if the newer sites rarely say so.

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Having tried most of these, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since it costs nothing to try. In practice, I'd move to a proper conversation quickly rather than give it a full week before judging, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings. Being blunt about it, sites that skip verification have leaned much heavier on paid boosts, though it depends heavily on where you live. Judging by my own inbox, the niche ones have changed the matching order without saying so, so treat the reviews with caution.

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