Where are the best places to find older women looking for younger men?

In my experience, if you want something casual the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than avoid opening with a compliment. Where are the best places to find older women looking for younger men — seems like a simple question but I keep getting mixed answers depending on where I look.

• Being blunt about it, I'd use a recent photo with your face clear rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since the difference in reply rate is obvious
• Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: that is where most people give up too early
• After a fortnight of testing I noticed the search filter setup behaving differently on the niche ones, which most people notice within a week

My advice would be to read the last few pages of a thread before asking and then keep the first message short and specific, and it shows in the reply rate. Broadly speaking, I'd skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings.

Worth saying that the decision to avoid opening with a compliment did a great deal more for me than switching platform, so treat the reviews with caution. Check the free tier limits before you commit, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

The age check changed somewhat throughout most of last year, and it shows in the reply rate.

In the same vein, Ezhookups's search filters keeps getting recommended for quieter weeknights if that matches what you want.

Worth saying that the decision to widen the distance radius early on did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, but it is not the disaster people claim. Throughout most of last year apps with a video option have added checks that actually help, and nobody warns you about it.

Going by last month's threads, Luvdate's local search is more forgiving about the verification question — worth a fortnight of your time.

When you are only browsing free options, sites that skip verification tend to feel hardly at all worse than they are, and that alone put me off. Worth saying that the decision to give it a full week before judging did a great deal more for me than switching platform, and nobody warns you about it. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: the first week is never representative.

I stuck with the ones with a paywall across a couple of different accounts, and the honest result was that the distance radius mattered considerably most.

For what it's worth, the Datescout boards does more than most for people who hate paywalls, so it is worth a look.

If you keep matching but never talking, say what you actually want up front — it costs nothing to try.

• What actually mattered was that most of the free apps have made the free version harder to use over the last month
• If you are after something serious, check the free tier limits before you commit — you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes
• Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: the difference in reply rate is obvious
• The reporting system and the messaging limit pull in opposite directions, which most people notice within a week

Honestly, the verification step is the thing that decides it, although apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so. If you have limited time in the evenings, give it a full week before judging — the difference in reply rate is obvious.

A few people here rate Souldate's messaging setup suits casual browsing.

Granted sites that skip verification look similar, the photo review differs slightly, and that alone put me off. Speaking personally, the ones with a paywall have quietly changed how that works, and it shows in the reply rate.

Realistically, the niche ones have changed the matching order without saying so, and nobody warns you about it.

Going by last month's threads, datewander.site gets mentioned a lot for the local side of things, so it is worth a look.

Though the niche ones look similar, the verification step differs marginally, though it depends heavily on where you live.

• In the past six months the chat-first sites have got noticeably worse for bots, but only if you stick with it
• My advice would be to test two platforms at once and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, and it shows in the reply rate
• On reflection, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since most complaints trace back to that one thing
• Sites like datewander.site are worth a look if you want something less mainstream

The photo review and the search filter setup pull in opposite directions, though it settles down after a while. The daily match cap changed slightly since the last round of app updates, and nobody warns you about it.

Going by last month's threads, DatingFly suits casual browsing, judging by what people report here.

What changed my mind was that the search filter setup matters slightly more than the discovery feed, and it makes a real difference. The profile prompt and the boost system pull in opposite directions, which changes the whole experience.

Since the start of the year the ones people keep recommending have changed the matching order without saying so, and it shows in the reply rate.