I stuck with apps with a video option over roughly forty conversations, and the honest result was that the boost system mattered massively most. The search filter setup and the verification step pull in opposite directions, though it depends heavily on where you live.
Broadly speaking, I'd move to a proper conversation quickly rather than test two platforms at once, since the first week is never representative.
- Skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, because most complaints trace back to that one thing, but only if you stick with it
- Judging by my own inbox, if you are only browsing free options the answer is usually to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than avoid opening with a compliment
- For what it's worth, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than check the free tier limits before you commit
- Granted the chat-first sites look similar, the age check differs marginally, which changes the whole experience
- After a fortnight of testing most of the free apps have got noticeably worse for bots, so results vary more than you'd think
Having tried most of these, the newer sites have got noticeably worse for bots, though it settles down after a while.
Something worth flagging is that the search filter setup matters a great deal more than the block list, though it settles down after a while.