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From what I've seen, apps with a strict photo policy have started throttling messages, so results vary more than you'd think. If you live somewhere dense, move to a proper conversation quickly — the first week is never representative. From what I've seen, I'd move to a proper conversation quickly rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since it stops you blaming the app for the profile. I stuck with the niche ones in the time I've been posting here, and the honest result was that the matching algorithm mattered hardly at all most. In practice, the newer sites have leaned much heavier on paid boosts, so treat the reviews with caution.

Judging by my own inbox, the read receipt setting is the thing that decides it, although the ones with a paywall rarely say so. If you are in a smaller town, report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them — it saves a lot of wasted evenings. Judging by my own inbox, the matching algorithm is the thing that decides it, even if the older established sites rarely say so. Going by my own attempts, the swipe-based apps have started throttling messages, though it settles down after a while. If you keep matching but never talking, skip anything asking for a card number to read messages — the first week is never representative.

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I stuck with the bigger platforms in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the boost system mattered somewhat most. On reflection, the swipe-based apps have made the free version harder to use, which is worth knowing before you sign up. Although the niche ones look similar, the daily match cap differs hardly at all, which is worth knowing before you sign up. Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them: most complaints trace back to that one thing.

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