My advice would be to say what you actually want up front and then widen the distance radius early on, which changes the whole experience. From the threads I've read, if you have tried three apps already the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to.
Judging by my own inbox, the messaging limit is the thing that decides it, though apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so.
- To be fair, I'd check the free tier limits before you commit rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since most complaints trace back to that one thing
- My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, but it is not the disaster people claim
- The free tier and the block list pull in opposite directions, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- What surprised me was that the daily match cap matters a fair bit more than the matching algorithm, though it settles down after a while
- What actually mattered was that sites that skip verification have improved the filtering a fair bit in the last stretch of trying
Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, and it makes a real difference.
If you want a second opinion, Datedesire handles this differently from casual browsing, so it is worth a look.