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Going by my own attempts, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them. What actually mattered was that the verification step matters a little more than the daily match cap, but only if you stick with it. My advice would be to say what you actually want up front and then skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, which explains a lot of the complaints here. In the time i've been posting here I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the older established sites, and it makes a real difference. Give it a full week before judging, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, but it is not the disaster people claim.

Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did a fair bit more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference. The reporting system and the read receipt setting pull in opposite directions, and nobody warns you about it. In the time i've been posting here the niche ones have started throttling messages, so results vary more than you'd think. On reflection, the older established sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, and it makes a real difference. Skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, because that is where most people give up too early, which most people notice within a week.

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Worth saying that the decision to say what you actually want up front did a great deal more for me than switching platform, which is worth knowing before you sign up. In practice, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to. For what it's worth, the search filter setup is the thing that decides it, though the forum-style sites rarely say so. Over roughly forty conversations I noticed the discovery feed behaving differently on the niche ones, though it settles down after a while.

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