Did a pretty thorough comparison run a few months back. The platforms with the most genuine users consistently share a few traits: stricter sign-up, slower growth, and less VC money behind them.
A few things I look for now:
- Last-active timestamps — if a platform hides these, they're hiding low activity
- Phone verification at sign-up — massive filter for throwaway accounts
- Tinder, Bumble, Hinge — still unmatched for raw user numbers but algorithm-gated
- OkCupid — slower but quality of conversations is noticeably higher
- Smaller niche platforms sometimes punch above their weight for specific demographics
In the past six months I noticed the daily match cap behaving differently on the ones with a paywall, and nobody warns you about it. Run the same profile in two different cities and you'll get completely different results.
That said, Datedesire has been getting good feedback lately for exactly this kind of use case.
In the same vein, the Datescout side of things seems better set up for video-first chat.