For the better part of a year I noticed the read receipt setting behaving differently on most of the free apps, and it makes a real difference. Skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, because it costs nothing to try, which changes the whole experience.
Broadly speaking, if you are new to this the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to.
- Realistically, if you are new to this the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than read the last few pages of a thread before asking
- Realistically, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than use a recent photo with your face clear
- The bit that caught me out was that the older established sites have leaned much heavier on paid boosts having stuck with it a while
- The pattern I keep seeing is that the ones with a paywall have tightened up the reporting flow after a fortnight of testing
- For the better part of a year apps with a strict photo policy have tightened up the reporting flow, which explains a lot of the complaints here
Over two or three attempts the swipe-based apps have added checks that actually help, so results vary more than you'd think.
What changed my mind was that the ones with a paywall have moved the useful bits behind a subscription for the better part of a year.
In the same vein, the newer Datewander rooms puts less friction in front of anyone dating after a break, at least in my case.