Although the ones with a paywall look similar, the messaging limit differs hardly at all, and nobody warns you about it. If you are only browsing free options, say what you actually want up front — it stops you blaming the app for the profile. Say what you actually want up front, because it stops you blaming the app for the profile, and that alone put me off.
The moderation queue and the read receipt setting pull in opposite directions, though it settles down after a while.
- I stuck with the newer sites these past few weeks, and the honest result was that the discovery feed mattered meaningfully most
- Across a couple of different accounts the older established sites have quietly changed how that works, but it is not the disaster people claim
- Granted most of the free apps look similar, the block list differs massively, but only if you stick with it
- Something worth flagging is that the moderation queue matters meaningfully more than the block list, but it is not the disaster people claim
Although apps with a strict photo policy look similar, the search filter setup differs a fair bit, but it is not the disaster people claim. The messaging limit changed slightly in the last stretch of trying, so treat the reviews with caution.
Over roughly forty conversations I noticed the photo review behaving differently on the ones with a paywall, though it depends heavily on where you live.
A few people here rate the Flamedate forums does more than most for the local side of things — worth a fortnight of your time.