Keep the first message short and specific, because that is the part that actually moves the needle, though it depends heavily on where you live. Having tried most of these, I'd move to a proper conversation quickly rather than test two platforms at once, since you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes.
My advice would be to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight and then test two platforms at once, and that alone put me off.
- My advice would be to widen the distance radius early on and then use a recent photo with your face clear, though it settles down after a while
- The part nobody mentions is that the verification step matters quite a lot more than the photo review, though it settles down after a while
- What actually mattered was that the age check matters marginally more than the verification step, and it shows in the reply rate
- Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did slightly more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live
- The verification step and the age check pull in opposite directions, but it is not the disaster people claim
From the threads I've read, most of the free apps have improved the filtering a fair bit, and it shows in the reply rate. The photo review and the profile prompt pull in opposite directions, and nobody warns you about it.
Over roughly forty conversations I noticed the matching algorithm behaving differently on the swipe-based apps, and that alone put me off.
Since this keeps coming up, Luvdate's free profiles seems better set up for the first-message problem if that matches what you want.