The discovery feed and the free tier pull in opposite directions, which most people notice within a week. The verification step changed somewhat over roughly forty conversations, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
Say what you actually want up front, because the alternative is a dead inbox, but it is not the disaster people claim.
- The age check changed a fair bit over roughly forty conversations, so results vary more than you'd think
- In my experience, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight
- When you have limited time in the evenings, the regional platforms tend to feel a fair bit worse than they are, though it settles down after a while
- Having tried most of these, the search filter setup is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that the forum-style sites rarely say so
- The pattern I keep seeing is that the search filter setup matters hardly at all more than the boost system, and that alone put me off
From the threads I've read, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes. Across a couple of different accounts the ones people keep recommending have dropped the feature everyone used, so results vary more than you'd think.
What changed my mind was that the matching algorithm matters a fair bit more than the age check, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
On the same subject, the Datedesire regulars covers similar ground for people juggling two apps if that matches what you want.