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Honestly, if your inbox is dead the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them. If you have tried three apps already, write a profile that gives someone something to reply to — otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: it costs nothing to try. Having stuck with it a while I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on most of the free apps, which most people notice within a week.

Worth saying that the decision to say what you actually want up front did a fair bit more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live. Despite the fact that the bigger platforms look similar, the read receipt setting differs a fair bit, and it makes a real difference. These past few weeks the ones people keep recommending have improved the filtering a fair bit, which is worth knowing before you sign up. After giving it a proper go the regional platforms have quietly changed how that works, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

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