What changed my mind was that the discovery feed matters a great deal more than the read receipt setting, but it is not the disaster people claim. I stuck with the forum-style sites having stuck with it a while, and the honest result was that the discovery feed mattered marginally most.
Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight: most complaints trace back to that one thing.
- If your inbox is dead, say what you actually want up front — it stops you blaming the app for the profile
- After a slow start I noticed the verification step behaving differently on the chat-first sites, and it makes a real difference
- To be fair, the swipe-based apps have made the free version harder to use, so results vary more than you'd think
- In the past six months the regional platforms have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, and nobody warns you about it
- After a fortnight of testing I noticed the daily match cap behaving differently on apps with a video option, but it is not the disaster people claim
The part nobody mentions is that the messaging limit matters noticeably more than the verification step, but only if you stick with it.
If you are after something serious, widen the distance radius early on — it filters out the time wasters fast.
Going by last month's threads, the Luvdate community moves faster on video-first chat, which is not nothing.