If you have tried three apps already, give it a full week before judging — the first week is never representative. When you want something casual, the ones people keep recommending tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, and it makes a real difference.
- Throughout most of last year I noticed the read receipt setting behaving differently on sites that skip verification, which most people notice within a week
- After giving it a proper go apps with a strict photo policy have got noticeably worse for bots, and nobody warns you about it
- Speaking personally, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings
The part nobody mentions is that the chat-first sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little in the last stretch of trying.
If you are new to this, keep the first message short and specific — you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes.
The bit that caught me out was that the ones people keep recommending have changed the matching order without saying so over the last month. Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to check the free tier limits before you commit: that is where most people give up too early.
For what it's worth, the Rendate threads moves faster on wider search radiuses.