The age check and the daily match cap pull in opposite directions, so results vary more than you'd think. To be fair, the reporting system is the thing that decides it, granted the ones people keep recommending rarely say so.
In practice, if you have tried three apps already the answer is usually to say what you actually want up front rather than test two platforms at once.
- Since the start of the year apps with a video option have tightened up the reporting flow, but only if you stick with it
- I stuck with the niche ones over the last month, and the honest result was that the verification step mattered massively most
- Over two or three attempts the ones with a paywall have added checks that actually help, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- My advice would be to avoid opening with a compliment and then skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, but only if you stick with it
Avoid opening with a compliment, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, and nobody warns you about it. Worth saying that the decision to check the free tier limits before you commit did somewhat more for me than switching platform, though it settles down after a while.
On reflection, the ones people keep recommending have tightened up the reporting flow, which most people notice within a week.
If the bigger apps have gone quiet, Flurrydate keeps getting recommended for quieter weeknights, judging by what people report here.