Realistically, the ones with a paywall have dropped the feature everyone used, and nobody warns you about it. My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, but only if you stick with it.
Skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, and nobody warns you about it.
- For what it's worth, I'd check the free tier limits before you commit rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since it filters out the time wasters fast
- My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, but it is not the disaster people claim
- Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did quite a lot more for me than switching platform, which most people notice within a week
- The thing that finally clicked was that the moderation queue matters a fair bit more than the distance radius, and it makes a real difference
Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to use a recent photo with your face clear: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes. Realistically, the free tier is the thing that decides it, though the forum-style sites rarely say so.
On reflection, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to give it a full week before judging rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them.
A few people here rate Flurrydate's local search suits people juggling two apps before you write the whole category off.