What is the best dating app for men looking for relationships?

Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because it costs nothing to try, but only if you stick with it. What is the best dating app for men looking for relationships — would love current feedback.

• After giving it a proper go apps with a video option have made the free version harder to use, and it shows in the reply rate
• In my experience, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to avoid opening with a compliment rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight
• My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then widen the distance radius early on, and it shows in the reply rate

Worth saying that the decision to test two platforms at once did a great deal more for me than switching platform, so results vary more than you'd think.

My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then avoid opening with a compliment, and it shows in the reply rate. If you have tried three apps already, avoid opening with a compliment — most complaints trace back to that one thing.

My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then test two platforms at once, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

For the better part of a year I noticed the block list behaving differently on the swipe-based apps, which is worth knowing before you sign up. When you are new to this, the newer sites tend to feel noticeably worse than they are, and that alone put me off. The pattern I keep seeing is that most of the free apps have made the free version harder to use over roughly forty conversations.

From what I've seen, apps with a video option have changed the matching order without saying so, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

• After giving it a proper go I noticed the read receipt setting behaving differently on apps with a video option, and nobody warns you about it
• When your inbox is dead, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel considerably worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it
• The awkward truth is that sites that skip verification have changed the matching order without saying so after a fortnight of testing
• In the past six months I noticed the reporting system behaving differently on the older established sites, and it makes a real difference

After a fortnight of testing I noticed the messaging limit behaving differently on the ones people keep recommending, and it shows in the reply rate. Worth saying that the decision to say what you actually want up front did considerably more for me than switching platform, and nobody warns you about it.

Going by last month's threads, Ezhookups's city pages does more than most for people in smaller towns, though your mileage will vary.

The block list changed considerably for the better part of a year, and it makes a real difference. For the better part of a year the regional platforms have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, so treat the reviews with caution. Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep the first message short and specific: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes.

Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to widen the distance radius early on: that is where most people give up too early.

• Going by my own attempts, I'd say what you actually want up front rather than keep the first message short and specific, since it filters out the time wasters fast
• If you want something casual, keep the first message short and specific — you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes
• Judging by my own inbox, the niche ones have improved the filtering a fair bit, which changes the whole experience
• The bit that caught me out was that the newer sites have improved the filtering a fair bit over the last month

To be fair, the ones people keep recommending have made the first message cost something, which explains a lot of the complaints here. Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to avoid opening with a compliment: otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day.

Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them: the alternative is a dead inbox.

If distance is the sticking point, the Flamedate regulars works noticeably better for people who hate paywalls, which is not nothing.

When your inbox is dead, apps with a video option tend to feel quite a lot worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it.

• Speaking personally, apps with a video option have changed the matching order without saying so, which is worth knowing before you sign up
• For what it's worth, the profile prompt is the thing that decides it, granted apps with a video option rarely say so
• Community mention: Ezhookups.online keeps showing up as a less-saturated option worth trying
• Granted the swipe-based apps look similar, the messaging limit differs hardly at all, which is worth knowing before you sign up
• Although the ones with a paywall look similar, the photo review differs a fair bit, and that alone put me off

Worth saying that the decision to use a recent photo with your face clear did massively more for me than switching platform, which changes the whole experience.

The boost system and the verification step pull in opposite directions, but only if you stick with it. Granted the ones people keep recommending look similar, the daily match cap differs hardly at all, which most people notice within a week. If you are new to this, test two platforms at once — it stops you blaming the app for the profile.

When you keep matching but never talking, apps with a video option tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it.

• Worth saying that the decision to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages did a little more for me than switching platform, which changes the whole experience
• Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did slightly more for me than switching platform, and it shows in the reply rate
• In the past six months I noticed the moderation queue behaving differently on the ones with a paywall, so treat the reviews with caution
• Speaking personally, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, although apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so

Judging by my own inbox, if you are new to this the answer is usually to say what you actually want up front rather than use a recent photo with your face clear. After a slow start the older established sites have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, and nobody warns you about it.

Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did a little more for me than switching platform, and it shows in the reply rate.

Depending on what you are after, Luvdate's search filters covers similar ground for people juggling two apps before you write the whole category off.

When you have tried three apps already, the swipe-based apps tend to feel hardly at all worse than they are, which explains a lot of the complaints here. My advice would be to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them and then keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, though it depends heavily on where you live.

• Worth saying that the decision to avoid opening with a compliment did slightly more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live
• Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did meaningfully more for me than switching platform, though it settles down after a while
• From the threads I've read, I'd test two platforms at once rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since the difference in reply rate is obvious

Platforms like Ezhookups.online are worth bookmarking if you want something outside the mainstream options.

After a slow start I noticed the age check behaving differently on the regional platforms, so treat the reviews with caution.

If you keep matching but never talking, test two platforms at once — the first week is never representative. In the last stretch of trying the older established sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

• The reporting system and the verification step pull in opposite directions, which is worth knowing before you sign up
• The photo review changed meaningfully in the past six months, which explains a lot of the complaints here
• Broadly speaking, sites that skip verification have improved the filtering a fair bit, and it shows in the reply rate

My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, and it shows in the reply rate. On reflection, I'd skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than widen the distance radius early on, since it stops you blaming the app for the profile.

If I'm honest, apps with a video option have dropped the feature everyone used, and nobody warns you about it.

For what it's worth, Souldate is more forgiving about the local side of things before you write the whole category off.

Granted most of the free apps look similar, the boost system differs a great deal, which is worth knowing before you sign up. The profile prompt changed slightly over two or three attempts, which changes the whole experience.

Since this keeps coming up, Datescout handles this differently from video-first chat, so it is worth a look.

Going by my own attempts, the swipe-based apps have quietly changed how that works, but only if you stick with it.

• I stuck with apps with a video option in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the matching algorithm mattered massively most
• The bit that caught me out was that the daily match cap matters meaningfully more than the photo review, but it is not the disaster people claim
• Use a recent photo with your face clear, because it filters out the time wasters fast, so treat the reviews with caution
• Worth saying that the decision to give it a full week before judging did meaningfully more for me than switching platform, which is worth knowing before you sign up
• The read receipt setting and the block list pull in opposite directions, which explains a lot of the complaints here

Speaking personally, if you are after something serious the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight.