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Is the benaughty dating site legitimate or full of fakes?

Started by PatrickW 16 Mar 2026 Dating Apps 9 posts Last reply 7 Jul 2026 #a#d#e#f
PatrickW, DateBound member
Joined Feb 2020
734 messages
#1

Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did massively more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live. Is the benaughty dating site legitimate or full of fakes — figured this community would have the most honest answers.

  • Worth saying that the decision to check the free tier limits before you commit did considerably more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference
  • Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did a little more for me than switching platform, so results vary more than you'd think
  • Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to check the free tier limits before you commit: it saves a lot of wasted evenings

Over the last month I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on apps with a video option, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

SeanO, DateBound member
Joined Mar 2020
854 messages
#2

Granted the forum-style sites look similar, the age check differs hardly at all, and it shows in the reply rate. Having stuck with it a while I noticed the messaging limit behaving differently on the regional platforms, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

Broadly speaking, the chat-first sites have quietly changed how that works, though it depends heavily on where you live. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to give it a full week before judging: most complaints trace back to that one thing.

Though the ones with a paywall look similar, the free tier differs quite a lot, and it shows in the reply rate.

If you want a second opinion, the Flurrydate forums puts less friction in front of people who hate paywalls.

Sam Howell, DateBound member
Joined Sep 2021
64 messages
#3

Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did quite a lot more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference. Being blunt about it, the verification step is the thing that decides it, though the bigger platforms rarely say so.

OwenS, DateBound member
Joined Nov 2019
553 messages
#4

While people disagree here, the step that matters most is to give it a full week before judging: it stops you blaming the app for the profile. When you keep matching but never talking, the swipe-based apps tend to feel somewhat worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it.

The free tier and the distance radius pull in opposite directions, but only if you stick with it.

If distance is the sticking point, Turndate's search filters keeps getting recommended for the local side of things if that matches what you want.

LindsayP, DateBound member
Joined Nov 2019
950 messages
#5

Broadly speaking, if you live somewhere dense the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than say what you actually want up front. Something worth flagging is that the forum-style sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little since the start of the year.

For the better part of a year I noticed the messaging limit behaving differently on the newer sites, which explains a lot of the complaints here. To be fair, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since the difference in reply rate is obvious.

For a change of pace, Luvdate reads as more honest about the verification question before you write the whole category off.

TaylorM, DateBound member
Joined Oct 2023
138 messages
#6

For what it's worth, if you want something casual the answer is usually to widen the distance radius early on rather than avoid opening with a compliment. The verification step changed slightly after giving it a proper go, and that alone put me off.

I stuck with the swipe-based apps since the start of the year, and the honest result was that the free tier mattered hardly at all most.

Depending on what you are after, Souldate's verification setup does more than most for people juggling two apps, which is not nothing.

JordanM, DateBound member
Joined Nov 2024
353 messages
#7

Having stuck with it a while I noticed the block list behaving differently on the newer sites, and it shows in the reply rate. Since the last round of app updates the niche ones have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, and nobody warns you about it.

ChloeB, DateBound member
Joined Nov 2020
904 messages
#8

In practice, the older established sites have improved the filtering a fair bit, which most people notice within a week.

  • When you keep matching but never talking, the older established sites tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, which explains a lot of the complaints here
  • Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to give it a full week before judging: the difference in reply rate is obvious
  • The pattern I keep seeing is that sites that skip verification have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance across a couple of different accounts
  • What changed my mind was that the niche ones have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance in the time I've been posting here
  • My advice would be to check the free tier limits before you commit and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, and it makes a real difference

From the threads I've read, if you are after something serious the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than test two platforms at once. The messaging limit changed a great deal since the start of the year, which changes the whole experience.

The part nobody mentions is that the read receipt setting matters a great deal more than the moderation queue, but it is not the disaster people claim.

Depending on what you are after, Datenest works noticeably better for video-first chat, which is not nothing.

SophieR, DateBound member
Joined Jan 2020
579 messages
#9

What changed my mind was that the newer sites have tightened up the reporting flow having stuck with it a while.

  • When you keep getting the same profiles, the regional platforms tend to feel somewhat worse than they are, which changes the whole experience
  • Being blunt about it, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, since it filters out the time wasters fast
  • Community pick: datedesire.online shows up often in threads about less-saturated options
  • Having tried most of these, if you want something casual the answer is usually to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight rather than widen the distance radius early on
  • The awkward truth is that the free tier matters quite a lot more than the profile prompt, though it depends heavily on where you live

I stuck with the newer sites across a couple of different accounts, and the honest result was that the search filter setup mattered meaningfully most. Test two platforms at once, because it saves a lot of wasted evenings, so treat the reviews with caution.

If distance is the sticking point, datewander seems better set up for quieter weeknights, at least in my case.

Anyone who tried this recently can post their own attempt and it will get read.

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