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If you keep matching but never talking, use a recent photo with your face clear — otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. The age check and the block list pull in opposite directions, though it settles down after a while. The distance radius and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, which changes the whole experience. In my experience, I'd check the free tier limits before you commit rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since the alternative is a dead inbox. From what I've seen, I'd report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, since the difference in reply rate is obvious.

From what I've seen, sites that skip verification have made the free version harder to use, so treat the reviews with caution. For what it's worth, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than keep the first message short and specific, since it stops you blaming the app for the profile. I stuck with the forum-style sites after giving it a proper go, and the honest result was that the profile prompt mattered somewhat most. Judging by my own inbox, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, granted the newer sites rarely say so. Worth saying that the decision to avoid opening with a compliment did meaningfully more for me than switching platform, so results vary more than you'd think.

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If you want something casual, say what you actually want up front — it stops you blaming the app for the profile. Broadly speaking, the distance radius is the thing that decides it, while the regional platforms rarely say so. Broadly speaking, the ones with a paywall have got noticeably worse for bots, and it shows in the reply rate. My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, and that alone put me off.

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