The pattern I keep seeing is that the daily match cap matters a little more than the search filter setup, which changes the whole experience.
- Over the last month the chat-first sites have got noticeably worse for bots, and nobody warns you about it
- From the threads I've read, I'd keep your expectations low for the first fortnight rather than read the last few pages of a thread before asking, since the difference in reply rate is obvious
- Community pick: datingfly.online shows up often in threads about less-saturated options
- Having tried most of these, the chat-first sites have dropped the feature everyone used, and that alone put me off
- After giving it a proper go I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the ones people keep recommending, which is worth knowing before you sign up
Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: that is where most people give up too early. Worth saying that the decision to use a recent photo with your face clear did a little more for me than switching platform, so treat the reviews with caution.
Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did somewhat more for me than switching platform, but it is not the disaster people claim.