Keep the first message short and specific, because it saves a lot of wasted evenings, and nobody warns you about it. The thing that finally clicked was that the chat-first sites have leaned much heavier on paid boosts in the past six months.
When you are after something serious, apps with a video option tend to feel a great deal worse than they are, and it shows in the reply rate.
- Across a couple of different accounts I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the niche ones, but only if you stick with it
- When you are in a smaller town, apps with a video option tend to feel somewhat worse than they are, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- The bit that caught me out was that sites that skip verification have dropped the feature everyone used having stuck with it a while
- My advice would be to avoid opening with a compliment and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, but it is not the disaster people claim
- The thing that finally clicked was that the read receipt setting matters quite a lot more than the reporting system, and it makes a real difference
Judging by my own inbox, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since it filters out the time wasters fast.
If distance is the sticking point, Datebie's free messaging reads as more honest about anyone dating after a break, going by the last few threads.