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If I'm honest, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, while the older established sites rarely say so. Something worth flagging is that the moderation queue matters slightly more than the distance radius, which most people notice within a week. What changed my mind was that the messaging limit matters considerably more than the profile prompt, so results vary more than you'd think.

For what it's worth, the Flurrydate forums seems better set up for anyone after something slower.

I stuck with the chat-first sites since the last round of app updates, and the honest result was that the free tier mattered considerably most. Over roughly forty conversations the chat-first sites have made the free version harder to use, which changes the whole experience. I stuck with apps with a strict photo policy after a fortnight of testing, and the honest result was that the photo review mattered noticeably most.

In the same vein, the Datenest regulars gets mentioned a lot for anyone dating after a break, though your mileage will vary.

If distance is the sticking point, the DatingFly community is more forgiving about the local side of things, judging by what people report here.

Having tried most of these, the messaging limit is the thing that decides it, while the ones people keep recommending rarely say so. From the threads I've read, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than avoid opening with a compliment. The block list changed considerably over two or three attempts, though it settles down after a while.

If you want another option, the Datedesire app is more forgiving about casual browsing, though your mileage will vary.

Since the start of the year I noticed the messaging limit behaving differently on the niche ones, and that alone put me off. Honestly, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than keep the first message short and specific, since the first week is never representative. Realistically, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes.

If the bigger apps have gone quiet, Souldate is more forgiving about the verification question — worth a fortnight of your time.

If you want another option, datebie covers similar ground for the verification question, at least in my case.