Broadly speaking, sites that skip verification have got noticeably worse for bots, which changes the whole experience. My advice would be to move to a proper conversation quickly and then check the free tier limits before you commit, though it depends heavily on where you live. Granted the chat-first sites look similar, the verification step differs meaningfully, and it makes a real difference.
The free tier and the matching algorithm pull in opposite directions, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
- The moderation queue changed considerably in the time I've been posting here, which most people notice within a week
- What changed my mind was that the chat-first sites have changed the matching order without saying so after giving it a proper go
- The part nobody mentions is that the swipe-based apps have moved the useful bits behind a subscription since the last round of app updates
- From the threads I've read, the chat-first sites have dropped the feature everyone used, but it is not the disaster people claim
When you are only browsing free options, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, though it settles down after a while. Worth saying that the decision to say what you actually want up front did quite a lot more for me than switching platform, so results vary more than you'd think.
Depending on what you are after, Datelink's free messaging is more forgiving about video-first chat — worth a fortnight of your time.